Many of us in today’s economic environment must balance many aspects of our lives to survive, be happy, healthy, and successful. You may be juggling a job or a profession, or you may own or have numerous companies or enterprises like I do, a relationship, and some of you may even have children, and then there’s that much-needed and sometimes overlooked personal time. How do we manage it all? How can we manage all of this while being happy and successful?
From my perspective as a behavior expert, relationship, and business coach for many years, we are not managing it very well! Stress and stress-related sickness are undoubtedly increasing, and women are increasingly catching up with males in terms of stress-related disorders, such as heart disease, at an alarming rate. Many of my customers report persistent anxiety, sadness, and physical ailments due to life imbalance and stress. Addictions to legal and illicit substances and self-medication with prescription medicines remain popular among those who seek to numb themselves after a long day or week.
As my client load, new company initiatives, and new relationships have grown over the years, I, too, have needed to adopt certain behavior patterns and ways of being to keep my life in balance and manage my health and happiness. Below, I’ll share my personal success routine and what I teach my coaching clients. These 7 methods can assist you in regaining balance and success!
Understand your own requirements and limitations. One way I care for myself is by understanding what I need to perform well. I need at least 7-8 hours of sleep every day plus a 30-minute power nap around 3 p.m. This permits me to remain up and work an additional three hours after finishing with my clients. I also understand that I need meals every 2-3 hours. When my blood sugar drops below a certain level, I “crash.” I can feel my body and brain closing down; I start yawning, then I become drowsy, unsteady, and irritated. To prevent this, I schedule meals every day and bring snacks and water everywhere I go. According to research, anxiety, and despair might be caused by dietary and sleep inadequacies. Look for yourself!
Respect your own needs. Start being more aware of what you need each day and take responsibility for meeting your own needs to notice how much better you feel and act around others. You are aware that taking care of yourself allows you to perform better, think better, and be a nicer person to be around. When you take care of yourself first, you can better care for others. People want to be around you when you’re at your best.
Be brave enough to respect yourself and establish limits. Many times, individuals will be unaware of your requirements. We must be willing to stand out and politely request or demand certain criteria from others (bosses, friends, coworkers, partners, spouses, family). Setting limits is what happens when we stand out for our own needs. We must be willing to deal with someone else’s disapproval of our actions; here is where our bravery comes into play. You can utilize self-talk to help you be comfortable with someone else’s emotions in this situation. In my coaching sessions, I teach clients a unique approach to Emotional Management by utilizing my EMT process and creating boundaries using specialized communication methods and scripts.
Be a dependable planner. Planning is essential for combining your daily and weekly duties and chores with your personal requirements. I utilize a paper planning sheet and even arrange my exercises every other day, naps, and eating breaks like appointments. That way, I can organize my other responsibilities around my needs and be happier and more effective. I always have my planner with me when I arrange a time with my clients, friends, and partner to ensure everything is in order.
Set priorities and stick to them. When you have deadlines for particular job-related assignments, you must often examine your calendar and alter your demands, such as sleep, exercises, and even relationship time, to fit the importance of completing the work on time. My partner and I experienced a week when I was overburdened by deadlines. We had to juggle to fulfill each other’s regular anticipated personal demands. When circumstances change, our prior conduct expectations can lead to problems. This leads me to the next stage…
Communication and debate are essential. To prevent upsetting others, we talk with people (family, spouses, partners, coworkers, and employers) and explain schedule changes and our requirements in detail. My partner and I were able to talk about the circumstances above and plan for weeks ahead when we both have extremely busy days. We set a rule of communicating what personal alone time we would need from one other, what assistance we will require from each other, and what we can offer back during these times.
Maintaining Your Vision entails seeing and remembering the larger picture. To be a balanced, happy, and healthy person in life, particularly in a relationship, you must first have a vision of what you want, know how you want to feel, and strive every day to accomplish that goal/picture and feelings. Holding that intention, maintaining emotional stability and optimism, and following the actions outlined above will ensure that you remain balanced and progress toward your goal. The Secret, the Law of Attraction, automatically directs your positive, focused energies, aspirations, and desires.
Remember: To be the person you’ve never been, to have the life and relationships you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done before.
